In her book 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do she identified bad habits that are most likely to hold women back.
Morin says men and women build mental strength in the same way, but when it comes to counterproductive bad habits that might slow your progress or keep you stuck, gender can play a serious role.
“Fortunately, recognizing those unhealthy habits is the first step in creating positive change so you can move forward toward reaching your greatest potential,” says Morin.
She says many kind and nurturing women exemplify the hallmarks of mental strength, yet few people are talking about what it takes to be a strong woman in today’s world.
Here are five of the things mentally strong women don’t do:
They don’t compare themselves to other people
Measuring your happiness, wealth and appearance against other people drains you of mental strength. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. No one is born mentally strong, but everyone has the opportunity to build mental muscle. Engage in regular exercises to gain better control over your thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
They don’t downplay their success
Don’t worry so much about looking arrogant that you refuse to give yourself credit for your hard work and your skills. Shrinking yourself won’t make other people feel more comfortable. Downplaying your success won’t do you or anyone else any favours. Practice accepting compliments with a simple “thank you” rather than insisting “it was nothing”.
They don’t let self-doubt stop them from reaching their goals
Self-doubt is normal and you don’t have to let it stop you from pushing ahead. Just because your brain tells you that you weren’t cut out for something doesn’t mean it’s true. Don’t believe everything you think. Embrace your uncertainty and trust that your self-doubt can actually help you stay focused on doing your best.
They don’t blame themselves when something goes wrong
Accepting personal responsibility for your mistakes is healthy, but taking on excessive blame can be toxic. Whether you apologize excessively or you feel guilty all the time, blaming yourself too much will take a toll on your life. Acknowledge your behaviour without blaming your character. Saying “I made a bad choice” rather than “I am a bad person” is key to helping you learn from your mistakes.
They don’t stay silent
Choosing not to report an incident to the authorities or not standing up to someone who abuses their power doesn’t mean you’re weak. It’s up to you to decide what’s best for you, but staying silent can drain you of mental strength.
Some studies show women speak 75 percent less than men in business meetings and they’re more likely to get interrupted. Don’t wait for people to invite you to speak. You have ideas worthy of sharing.
Source: Capricorn Review